When to stop?

Hanggang saan ang kanya nyong tiisin parasa anak? Will you still stay sa isang pagssama at the expense of your mental health just to have a complete family? It is easy to stay na kaya ntin magisa, pero once you have a child, you tend to forget yourself prioritize your baby no matter what. When it is okay to stop? I don't have anyone else to take care of my son, except his family. I am the bread winner and if my son is with them, dun cya nauwi sa parents nya. He keeps on lying and go drinking with friends saying na ka ot cya. Several times na nangyare to. I am wfh mom and i take care of the baby myself. Inuuwi nya lng ung bata if marami aq need gawin sa work. I have trust issues and he keeps on doing things na kinakainisan q. He likes helping other people even sa mga utang nito but can't find ways on how to help me with expenses. Saying it's my fault that i decided to keep my apartment even before i had the baby. So all expenses are mine alone. He's a govt employee and says that i have more money than him so it's only okay that i shoulder all our expenses. He got drunk last night and discovered his lies. He literally doesn't listen to me andi feel so neglected. We both k ow tbat living together i not healthy for us that's why he mostly goes home to his parents. Should i stop trying to have a complete family and try to mend my mental health? Iam having a series of anxiety attacts for the past couple weeks and he was not helping. My son will turn 2hrs old this january. #advicepls #pleasehelp

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Mommy, first of all, you and your son deserve to have someone that knows his priorities. Keeping your family complete doesn’t equal to a happy family remember that. If you and your son doesn’t feel appreciated and respect is not being served anymore you need to understand that you either have to run or endure it. What you tolerate now will multiply later on in life. Baka di nya nakikita yung value nyo as a family kasi lagi kayong available for him. I understand mommy you want a complete family for your son, but respect is not there anymore.

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Mommy nasa apartment mo kayo? Meaning yung partner/husband mo tumutuloy din dyan? If that’s the case, pauwiin mo nalang siya permanently sa bahay ng parents niya kasi ayaw man lang tumulong sa expenses ganun?!? Tapos if may need ka tapusin sa work pwede sa parents mo kaya iwan si son?

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hi mommy . ikaw naman pala expenses. bat dika umuwi sa inyo at dun mo ibigay bata .? mas magiging masaya ka kung papalayain mo sarili mo .