Solo parenting

Get help. Can hire part time helper for house chores. Or a part time nanny to babysit. If you have in laws or parents who are willing to help, please do. You are still recovering your own health (postpartum mothers don’t fully recover energy and body until 1 year later, IMO). So you are not “just looking after baby”. You are also needing to recover well, furthermore you’re a c sect mummy. Please reach out and get help. Don’t paiseh to get your hubs to help. Everyone is stretched thin with a baby but it won’t be forever. First few months baby has the highest dependency on parents. So please consider getting your husbands to help out, especially weekends and PH when he doesn’t need to work.

recommend to do post natal massage, order a meal delivery everyday, at least 1 meal, so no need to think what to eat or cook. then ask mil or own mum come a few hours each day to check on you. with the pain, the hormones and the love you have for your husband, its going to take a toll on you mentally. suggest to just gi e husband night shift as you will be burnt out by evening. my husband only took pl when I in hospital.. After that he went back work n mil came to help with confinement.. even then was quite bad.. she left after confinement but came back again after 3 days causei was so exhausted mentally n physically. suggest to sign up for ifc at 2months old so u can have a rest

Don't worry, we are stronger and alot more capable than we think. I didn't have a confinement nanny and I looked after the baby and 2 dogs myself (no helper, parents and in-laws also unable to help) when my husband went back to work. I'm also a csect mum. It may feel daunting initially but really, we'll just get used to the new routine. All the best! Believe in yourself, you can do it!

House chores, only do those essentials like washing and sterilising baby bottles. Accumulate the dishes and laundry to wash at night when your husband is home so when one is doing the chores, the other one is watching the baby. Sweeping and mopping can be done once a week on weekends. It’s hard but try to rest when baby is sleeping. Take care of your wound.

No tips to share because I am in the same boat as you. My confinement is ending soon and my c section wound still hurts from time to time. I am also going to take care of my baby all by myself. But I have already engaged a part time helper to clean once a week while I settle into a routine with baby. Leaving a comment here to let you know that you are not alone..

Try to see if you can get some help(friends or family) at the 1st week after your confinement end, be it a few hours or a few days, that will be useful in helping you to ease into taking care of your LO on your own during the day. And at night, if possible have your husband take over so you can get some rest.

I told my hubby to request work from home for a week after confinement. If ur hubby can’t, flip to ur side, and use ur elbow to pull urself up. Rem don’t use ur stomach muscle, it will still hurttttssss.. and wear a binder

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