Emotional….

It’s 18 weeks for me, first-time mum to be. While the physical symptoms are much better, the emotions are a tough one to manage. I guess it’s a mixture of my own work (stressful, long days), feeling alone (we are planning and managing on our own since our families can’t really assist much), planning for what happens next (caregiving plans, duties, my own masters that is to be completed while I’m on maternity) and uncertainty (hubby may be changing job during the third trimester). I feel like an emotional wreck this week and was completely exhausted after some tough days at work. It’s hard to name these emotions / tell hubs about it - which tbh, he may not exactly understand either….. Any tips from anyone? 🥺

hellodroopyeyes

first time mummy

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feeling overwhelmed is very real. dont be discouraged cos of that. maybe find a time to list down all the things that are on your mind. sort out the things that you can be control and the things you cant. focus on those you can actly control and those that you cant will sort themselves out in due time (as much as it would be nice if we could control everything). we didnt get much family help either, it was tough and tiring but we pulled through the initial phase and has settled into a routine of some sorts. just some sacrifices here and there e.g. acknowledging that we will be more like partners than lovers for a short period of time, sleep might not be as abundant, chores may be left undone, buying takeaway more often than we would like, spending more money for conveniences. sometimes just gotta be a bit more thickskinned and ask for help from family and friends. you got this!

Part of it is due to hormones, the other is because you put too much stuff on yourself all at once it becomes too overwhelming and burns you out. Take one step at a time, things may turn out differently from what you’ve planned beforehand (maybe even better). Take a short break, even if it’s just 1-2 days, speak to a close friend or even rant out here (there are many working mummies who were probably in your position once that can give advices on your job).

Hi! Hope you can think of these as both of your personal achievements. I'm not receiving much help at the moment as well and I expect it would be the same once my baby comes out. The blessing is that you will learn to be able to manage things yourself and it's an achievement that people that received alot of help will not understand. you can do it!

*hug* i suggest talking to your hub.. sometimes we just need someone to talk to to clear our heads.. it might not go away but it definitely will lighten the load within yourself ♡ don be too hard on yourself. just do your best.. things will eventually turn out fine 😊😊

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