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married but feeling like a single mom

So I'm married now since 2013 nd we have 3 kids together but I feel like a single mom I must do everything myslf even thou right now we having a lock down in south africa due to the virus I really thought I wud have help but I'm told by my husband that he is on leave its his time to rest when he normally goes to work once he gets home his on his phone or playing on the playstation or watching movies I can ask him just to check on the two girls he will tell me no or I ask him just to watch the baby he will play with her when he feels like it even it's just to hold her or his always not feeling well dec last year I fell from the stairs nd injured my back he didnt want to help me he rather complained instead he fights with me so much I feel like he has been abusing me verbally and emotionally I've tried to speak to him about it but he says it's not I'm just lazy nd not understanding but i do so much make sure there is clean cloths and they ironed see to the kids bath them and dress them myslf his parents have seen his attitude but they doing nothing about this I feel so lost and dont know where to turn now I need advise please There is no use in going to the police either he listens to no one he is always right

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Sorry to hear about it. 😔 Are u working or stay at home mom? If u feel exhausted, can u hire nanny or helper to assist you? Or your mom / mil ?

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This was a huge debate between my aunt and my self on what age shud a baby be getting solids this isnt my first child this is my third So the arguement started when she asked my how old my baby is and if she started eating where by my answer was no as my baby is only 3 months old So she started going off at me saying she fed all her kids and she has 5 when they were 3 months now I know the clinics and docters have explained that babies can only eat solids from 6 months as their tummy r not ready for it Her answer was DO NOT LISTEN TO THE NURSES AND THE DOCTERS AT THE HOSPITAL AND CLINICS U SHUD START GIVING THE BABY FOOD NOW I just looked at her changed the subject and walked away Was I right in saying so Or was I being rude to her when I said no

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Nope you did the right thing:) Babies can start between 4 and 6 months, but it depends on whether they are ready. They will need to be able to sit up with support and have good neck support. They should also have good gag reflexes and be able to accept the spoon. They need to show an interest in food too. Different babies start at different times, and worldwide, many babies are recommended to start at 6 months. Anyway, you are the mummy so you decide:) Recent news articles have resurfaced, with young babies dying because their parents/grandparents/relatives fed them when they were too young. Your aunt probably didn’t read them, but it’s okay. As long as you know what’s best for your child (wow, 3 children! I’m trying to cope with 2 😂), then be proud of your decisions:)

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Hi mommies my sis in law told me my babies head looks abit big and ever since she told me that I've been worried we were at a docter last week nd she saw my baby but she didnt say anything and I was at the clinic and they did the head circumference nd they didnt refer me to the hospital but looking at pictures nd hearing wat she said has made me worry so much I even feel like crying I'm really so worried

im worried

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If the doctor did not mention anything, there's probably nothing unusual and you don't have to worry. If you're rrally concerned, check with your doctor the next visit. Dont accept "unprofessional" advice, not even from family members.

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having problems

My mom in law is forcing the issue for me to put my baby on formula I'm doing exclusive breastfeeding but they scared for the fact that If I leave my baby with them then she cries until I'm there so i have to go everywhere with her I'm very scared to actually walk with her in a carrier coz I have very weak legs so i fall sometimes I'm scared il fall with her nd she is onmy 2 months old the reason i dont want to put my baby on formula is that my eldest had stomach problems when I had my second child she just drank breast milk nd didnt have any problems now they want me to make that mistake of listening to them nd taking their advice where as the clinic told me to just give breast milk until she is 1 year old or until she leaves the breast herself. So coz of that I'm very scared to leave my baby with them coz I dont know what they cud give her. Nd maybe her tummy wont be able to handle it

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Hi dear, if you’re producing enough breastmilk for your little one, and you’re happy for continue breastfeeding till she’s 1 year old, then go for it:) First, listen to why your MIL wants to give formula (does she not know how to warm up expressed milk? Is it for convenience?). Then ask your husband to help you speak to her about what you and him want for your baby, and why. As for bringing baby around, if baby carrier is not possible, how about using a stroller instead? Then you don’t have to worry about falling. With regards to formula, there are variations that are more gentle on the stomach, and hypoallergenic variations too. So if you ever want to stop breastfeeding for whatever reason, don’t feel guilty, and know that you will be able to find suitable formula for your baby okay?:)

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baby was born at 37 weeks 6 days

Good day mommies So with great joy I would like to let everyone know that I gave birth last night at 23:00 it was so quickly my contractions started at about 5 or 6 with no bloody show just contractions my water broke at about 11 and at 11:30 my lil gabrielle was born weighting 2.8 kgs

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Congratulations mummy :) Beautiful name!!

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Hi mommy's i am about 35 weeks nd I see if I stand to long my foot starts swelling up did anyone have the same problem

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Yes it’s very common! The swelling should go away some time after giving birth:)

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