A non present husband

Is it a normal that husbands become lazy and non present once the wife gives birth? My husband does not share any household chores like washing clothes or cooking his or the baby's food. He is always at home because of leave but refused to contribute in any way. Now he has a surgery, even more so an excuse of not helping at all. As for baby necessities, he is very stingy with purchases and I use most of my money to buy baby's things. No choice I have to stay as a working mom so that I can be financially independent but I still need to take care of both baby and household. He whole day jus play with his handphone, or drink alcohol at night, or quarrel with me over money matters. I thought of separation but I had chosen him my own family so I can't go back to my parents anymore. I thought of marriage counselling, but he refused. Shld I even consider single parenting and divorce? #help #advicepls #nojudgement