Any good response for "wah you've gained weight"?

I'm not one of those lucky mums who can shed off the post-pregnancy weight gain. Post-partum depression hit me hard, so staying fit on top of taking care of my baby without helper or family's help just wasn't on top of my list. Just went to a wedding and the first thing my inconsiderate aunt and uncle who haven't seen me in years since covid was "wow you've put on weight", in front of other relatives. It was embarrassing and hurtful. It's not something that can just be ignored and then move on from. I was self conscious throughout the wedding dinner, and I am already dreading upcoming Christmas and Chinese New Year family gatherings where they may be more of such unnecessary comments from others. Realistically I will not be able to go back to pre-pregnancy weight in time. So...***Are there any sassy witty mums here with a good, helpful comeback?*** A response that lets them know it's not okay to shoot their mouths off this way?? I don't wish to just smile and nod and say "ya lor", then feel embarrassed and self-conscious throughout the gathering. If your advice is to ignore, no that's not practical. If a person says to you "Hey you've gained weight!", you can't just treat the person as invisible and pretend you didn't hear. You can't just stay silent, you also can't ignore and just walk off. To those advising to slim down by doing exercises or to face the truth, yeah sure don't worry, am in the process, but that's not the reply suggestion I'm seeking here. Thank you in advance for those with practical advice (instead of "just ignore")!!!!!🤗

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Well if you want to reply their comment, i take it you dont mind offending them back so if he/she isnt that slim, then you can just reply 彼此彼此.. 你也好不到哪里去..😂

2y ago

yes no worries, usually nosy elder relatives will never stop commenting on everything.. can even reply nastier stuff but we need to set good example to our kids, so try to restraint and reply sarcastic yet tactful 😆

haha maybe i will say this.. u think i got time to exercise meh, then who takes care of baby? or.. yaaa lose weight got prob, gain weight also got prob, how like that?

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Found this online & couldnt contain my laugher - ‘yes I know , I’ve also gained extra brain along with the weight. Want some ?’ 🤣

just say, "What to do, living a good life is tough! Everyday, treated like a princess. hubby pamper me alot! What about aunty? hahaha

Or maybe can reply; aiyahhh fat now nevermind… ltr i slim down already you all cry like baby i tell you. Haha.

"Yea the baby took all of my time so I don't have time to exercise. Do you want to help babysit instead?"

yea i gain weight cos I gave birth.. u seem to have gained a lot too.. did you give birth also?

It's a generation thing. Just ignore it, they probably don't mean it as an insult.

Mah life, mah rules! Mah body, mah weight! How does it matter to you 😂

Kill them with kindness and love. 😊

2y ago

mm how does that work? so your aunt says to you in front of your other relatives "wah, you so fat now ah!", what is the immediate response you'd give?