To be honest, they are not scary. Itâs just that as a FTM, everything changes with a newborn and we donât have enough time to adapt. Everything is thrown to us all at once which makes it overwhelming for us.
The start of your journey (confinement), your husbandâs support is very important. We have to work together while I learn and adapt to the routine before you go back to work. The loss of sleep is due to breastfeeding (regardless of latch or pump) rather than baby. For body changes, itâs very normal and you have to give it some time to go back. Just eat well, rest well and youâll be back in shape in no time before you even realize it (Took me 8 months to go back to PPW).
Not everything will be on the bad side, once youâve overcomed and got used to waking up frequently, youâre pretty much good. And if breastfeeding is really taking a toll on your sanity, itâs very okay to formula feed baby.
I wonât tell you all those âthink abt your baby Blablaâ because tbh itâs does not help anything (maybe tell myself ok cannot scold cannot flare up, they are just babies).
Get support from your husband, split up the duties (eg if you pump he wash, take turns to wake up to feed baby if bottle feeding), in the meantime, adapt and get used to the routine. Take one step at a time, if you need help, get help. Itâs okay. đ
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