idk how else to contain my anger……..

i just really wanted to rant because i have no one else to talk to… but anyway, my MIL suggested to take my LO (5mo) from sat-sun— which im fine with because it has been our arrangement since the beginning. i hate the fact that she does everything behind my back without asking me about what i think first. i really hate it. in the beginning, when my LO was around 1-2mo, she fed him small amounts of water because he was having a hard time passing motion— WHICH IS NORMAL FOR A NEWBORN AS THEYRE JUST TRYING TO FIGURE OUT EVERYTHING BY THEMSELVES. and i kind of confronted her about it saying that she shouldn’t, sent her articles that affected other babies and she had the gull to tell me that “it doesnt affect ALL babies” ya sure that may be the case, but its my baby you’re handling, MY BABY AND NOT YOURS. today, we were in the topic of feeding since i’m a bit concerned about LO’s feedings since he drinks on and off these days, so i was curious if he was feeding well. she mentioned that my LO wouldn’t finish drinking which is fine, my husband and i told her LO is suddenly going through this phase so just let him feed and rest in between and continue. AND SHE BLURTED OUT: “he also can take a bit of puree which is good” i cant even fathom how angry i am and as im typing this i feel like crying because whenever i voice things out to my husband regarding his mom’s actions he would always tell me to voice it out to her myself and i get so frustrated because HOW CAN A SON NOT TALK TO HIS OWN MOTHER? (i’ve decided not to confront her because we are always in constant miscomm and i get frustrated when she doesn’t understand me, so i would have to ask my husband to rephrase for me in text when texting MIL) i had it all planned out that we would start feeding him when LO is 6mo. she didnt even bother asking me when i would start feeding solids like… how inconsiderate can someone be? he is my baby. this is so infuriating for me and i feel so helpless and small. UPDATE: husband texted MIL earlier, she replied so passive aggressively (lol, not surprised at this point) saying, “ask her full-time take care of baby” like ok? I WOULD LOVE TO DO THAT, provided she doesn’t interfere with me mothering my own son then yes. at this point, i honestly feel like going no-contact with her and their side of the family. i cant believe someone would be this defensive and just… i dont even have the words to describe how im feeling. thank you to all the mummies who replied and understood me. i’ve never felt this heard in so long and i appreciate everything said in the comments 🥹