Insecure first time mum

I am not sure if the way I am feeling is normal. From the moment I conceive, my mil seems to be snatching my boy from me. She stayed with me for about 5 months. Every time I carry him she will ask me to pass to her. Then in the beginning when baby was close to me, she will blame me say cause I have longer maternity than others. Then when I walked away, she will say hurtful things like mummy walked away, you smile ah. Now baby is one year old, everytime I go her place, she will use gai gai to bribe him. So today as usual and baby just crawl to her and wave bye bye to me. I feel heart pain leh. Then cause I am breastfeeding, she been asking me if I have let him take milk powder. I think there is a possibility that she want to make him stay over at her place. I really don’t know how… I told my husband and he say I am thinking too much. But from all her actions I can see she is trying to make baby close to her and to want her and stay over. Using gai gai and go swimming to bribe him….#advicepls #firstbaby #pleasehelp

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I also face this problem b4. at first, I insist to keep a distance from mil. n I spend more time on my child, talk n play with him. then he stay closer with u, next time he go mil home, he will say no(that's my son haha) everytime mil ask him stay longer or stay overnight, I will emphasize to him: I will not stay with u ah , mama go home sleep. u stay with here only. he cries n says NO to mil. then mil will snatch him from my hand, my son will feel irritated hahahaha :) the most important that is spend time with them, they can feel. u r his mother, he loves you more than others

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