I can feel how you feel about your mum in this situation. I was once in the same situation and when I tried to understand more from my mum, it's really not easy as she is liable for the well-being of her grandchildren. She tends to feel more stressful if anything were to happen to her grandchildren and she won't be able to answer to the parents which is us. And moreover, she's in her mid 60s and her energy level is really worn out after one whole day with my baby (just feeding and looking after baby). What make it worst is she has to change her original lifestyle which is stress free with lots of freedom and chit chatting with friends. But now, she can only share her grumbles with us after we knocked off from work or whenever she see us. My mum has requested for me to quit my job asap when my baby was 6 mo and we manage to come to an agreement to do so when my baby turn 1. So right now, I'm a SAHM which I have been wanting to do so all along.
I personally feel that enrolling ur child at CC at 18mo aren't a bad thing actually. Everyone will be happier.
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