I'm a FTM too. Natural delivery, but 3rd Deg tear. Hospital advice 6 weeks no intercourse. For Csect, as it is an open wound, my jamu massage lady said it will take 8 weeks or more even to do post natal massages. I would say u can try when u feel okay. don't stress yourself. I'm sure your hubby is equally tired and doesn't want you to stress about sex when it is supposed to be enjoyable. ;)
you can try whenever you are ready. my LO is 9 weeks old and because of the night feeds, we rarely have time for love unless baby is in deep sleep. we only tried after 7 weeks post partum and its as tho i'm a virgin all over again LOL
wow.. firstly, get the go ahead from your obgyn. Secondly, your husband needs to be more understanding and not push you for it. you do it when YOU feel that you're ready.