Husband no paternity leave

Question

My husband wants to start a new job in my third trimester, one month before my EDD. (Pay cut of 10%, no pay leave to be used instead of paternity leave).We quarrelled today because he feels that I am not supportive while I feel unsupported.This is so difficult……anyone has any advice?We talked about it before but it’s not getting any better seriously. It’s transiting to anger now.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe give and take? Since there’s no PL for him but he has UPL, instead of 2 weeks, maybe ask him to take a few days in between to help you out. (I’m not sure what is the min working days he has to be working in order for you to share your ML with him, this one you can check with MOM) On the other hand, I feel it’s easier for us to be more hands on and adapt easier when there’s no help. My husband is physically there during PL but most of the time either sleeping or in the toilet 😒. When his PL finished, I feel I am able to manage on my own since I’ve been doing most of the stuffs during confinement.