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How to deal with this? Married for 15 years with 2 kids with H. Girl name M M was ex colleagues with H 15 years ago or more. M was warned by me to stay far from H due to H decided to be with me and marry. He does not want M to came in-between us. H only treat M as friends. But M take for granted and rely on my H. Will seek questions or help from him regardless on any issues or matter that she cannot decide This actions stop for a few years that did not disturb us. Recently my 6th senses kick in very strong. Saw the message on the phone that M send to H. She will asked a lot of questions regarding to herself or about him or even try to dig information on H to see how am I like and comparing herself and me. I not sure why she wants to do his after 15 years later. Am I being over sensitive or.

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Wouldn’t it be easier if H were to stand firm and cut all contacts with M? If H keeps harassing M then ask M to warn her that he will make a report towards her for harassment? It takes 2 parties to keep the conversation going. So if one side is not responsive, eventually the other party cannot do anything and will stop. She just probably couldn’t get over that she can’t have your husband 15 years ago that’s why she keeps comparing herself and you. I would just voice out my displeasment to my husband and make it clear. I don’t really care if that’s your god sister, best friend or best colleague whatsoever, if you as a husband knows that she has ill intentions, it’s your job to stay away from her. She needs any help can refer her to Google lol.

First of all, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. It is really disrespectful to the marriage and it seems like he wants the best of both worlds. I am sure they were more than just colleagues and friends. But all these speculation will not get us anywhere. Have to ask yourself- What do you want for yourself and your children? You have seen and felt more than enough. Sending love to you

In the first place, why cant your husband stay away from M and not reply at all?? So what if ex colleague, no longer working together and not work related. It takes 2 hands to clap. And your husband should stand firm. The way M keep going to him kind of mean your husb also keep responding to her. Both big problem. Tell your husband dont play with fire,

It’s ur stupid husband reply her She also evil tryna ruin ur marriage But it’s both of their fault So tell H to cut off all contact as u need to be respected.

Oh gosh, sounds like a red flag. Please ask your husband to stop all contact with M. He should be able to do that if he respects you as his wife. It’s that simple.

m can only continue if your husband replies her.. he has to block her and not reply! I would be angry if my husband wants to msg back too

think the problem not with M but your husband. WHY MUST REPLY HER? WHY MUST CHAT WITH HER?

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4mo ago

EXACTLY!! no point telling M to stay away when H still reply!! Ofc shiok lah

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