Toddler and Newborn

Tulong. Kailangan nyo ng tulong. Taking care of a toddler alone, mahirap na. So even more with a newborn. Before, I had this romantic idea that in having 2 children, my love won't be divided by 2 but rather be multiplied by 2. Now, even though that still holds true, it's a fact that your Time and Attention will be divided talaga, kasi 2 sila at 1 ka lang 😅 Nung buntis ako sa 2nd ko, may nagsabi sakin na if you have to "choose" between your toddler and baby, choose the toddler dahil nakakaintindi na sila unlike kay baby na hindi naman nya alam na hindi sya ang pinili mo. At first, I agreed with that and I tried to apply it, but nung 2 months na si baby ay narealize ko na mali ata. Kasi si firstborn, tinuturuan ko dati to learn how to wait, to try doing things on his own before asking for help, etc. Parang mali naman ata na biglang balewalain ko iyon ngayon, na tila itinuturo ko sa kanya na sya lagi ang priority kahit na may ibang taong mas nangangailangan ng tulong. So now, if kailangan ako ni baby (exclusively breastfeeding kami, just like my firstborn), then I'll have toddler wait. Almost 4 months na si baby ngayon, at medyo naka-adjust na rin si toddler. Talagang may 4th trimester lang talaga for all of us-- mommy, baby and toddler. May adjustment period talaga para sa lahat ☺️ Ginagawa ko, pinapakitaan ko si toddler ng mga photos at videos nya nung baby pa sya. Kinukwento ko how he was back then, just like si baby now para maintindihan nyang ganun din yung pag-aalaga namin sa kanya before and this time, it's baby's turn. Kapag tulog si baby or may ibang naga-alaga, I bond with toddler. If gusto ni toddler ng buhat, gagawin ko kahit buhat ko rin si baby. Basta kaya gawin at pagbigyan, gagawin ko, otherwise he'll have to wait. Also try to include si toddler sa paga-alaga kay baby. I'm not perfect, it's still a constant battle every day... all of us take turns in having our meltdowns but we're doing our best 🥴 Basta kung may isang bagay lang akong maipapayo sayo, it's TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST. Be kind to yourself-- eat well, sleep well, take a bath, ask for help. That way, you'll have the much needed energy (and sanity) to take care of your babies 🤗