To the Poster and to all commenters, if you find or have found your self in the situation that this decision is pressured on you or just to you period then I can only hope you remain clear and strong minded. Simply because as a not only a woman but as a mother and a wife you should love God first yourself next and then your significant other after and your child right after but just as equal to. With that being said you are not to put your significant other first or above your child's wants/needs due to pure selfish reasons witch are more then likely the case if your significant other has you in this predicament of deciding. There should never come a day or a way made for any reason or in any way for this to have to come down to a one or the other choice. Yiur significant other only comes first Simply because it is whom you have spent and will continue to spend the rest of every day life with and face every thing that life has for you together. were as your child is made together, raised, loved and cared for together. and a creation of God and your love togethers gift back to the world. Set free to do so as you have done.