baby stop carrying when mil carry

Dear mummies My mil and i are taking care of baby together. I am currently on ML. It hurts me that baby stop crying when my mil carry and crylike murder when i carry. I feel jealous toward my mil and even a tinge of hate toward baby for stop crying when my mil carry. I sometime secretly hope that baby cry when my mil carry so that i knows baby cry cause of some other reason rather than just want to be attached to my mil. It doesnt feel right to me as a mum that baby seek comfort with my mil and not from his own mum How do i handle this emotion? This is so wrong and unhealthy.

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The baby expert taught me that initially, baby may feel more secure with daddy carrying, because dads tend to hold the baby more firmly and tightly, giving them a sense of security, whereas we mums tend to be too gentle. Haha. So I guess it’s the same for your MIL. She carries baby with confidence. Since baby is new to you and soooo precious, you’re probably handling baby very gently. So don’t worry and be confident. Pat baby firmly with your hand cupped. Wrap baby in swaddles tightly. Hold baby close to you firmly. Your smell (babies love their mummy’s small) and your new confidence + firm holding/patting is the winning formula 🎉 Don’t be jealous, dear. The baby is yours:)

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