First preg. No mum, no MIL. Daunting 😨

Among our circles, we seem to be the only couple with no mums. It feels daunting that we're going through our first pregnancy, the confinement after, and the taking care of our first child by ourselves without a mum and MIL. (*Father and FIL are old, and aren't familiar with taking care of babies, and aren't concerned or interested about our pregnancy haha). We are all on our own. Just curious, anyone in this same rare situation? How did you manage? Do you stop at 1 child because of the lack of help? Pls share! I get scared and nervous just thinking about it. And very envious of the many other couples out there who have help from their mum and MIL. (We stay in our own place, have no intention of engaging helper/confinement nanny) #1stimemom #advicepls

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Both my parents passed on. While my husband’s parents were those “dont care kind”. I gave birth caesarian and do everything on my own the next day i was discharged (showering baby..etc) but of cos with the help of my husband. There were times that i do have breakdown cos i find theres sooo many things to do but i guess having a supportive husband helps alot. So im very sure if i can, you can too! My baby is now 6months.

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4y ago

Thank you so much for sharing and for the encouragement! You're an amazing mum♡ Your in-laws are the "don't care kind" during pregnancy, just like my FIL. But can I ask, did they suddenly show up once baby was born? At the hospital and during confinement? My FIL has shown absolutely no concern during my pregnancy even tho he had been demanding for a grandchild. I dread the thought of him suddenly showing up after my delivery and disturb during my confinement, not to ask after me, but solely for the sake of seeing the grandchild he has asked for. 🙄

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