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is my baby normal?

Mom, I'm worried. Why doesn't my baby nurse frequently like other babies? I heard that newborns can breastfeed every 2 hours, even every hour... My baby is irregular. Sometimes, he can sleep for up to 4 hours... then breastfeed. But sometimes, it's after 1 hour, then he breastfeeds. I can't seem to grasp the same nursing pattern. Is this normal? help #seriouslyasking

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Ummmm the first three months please wake baby up to nurse every two to three hours day or night 😢 Usually after the forst few months they will have their own schedules so its feed on demand and learning baby hunger cues. Mine kept confusing me with comfort latching but i figured that out not long after too haha

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pregnant but cannot stop smoking 😭

Hi Moms, please don't judge. I'm reaching out because I'm feeling really confused and torn right now. I recently found out I'm pregnant, which is incredibly exciting, but I'm struggling with a habit I know I need to break: smoking. I've been a smoker for quite some time, and while I desperately want to quit for the health of my baby, I'm finding it incredibly difficult. Whenever I try to refrain from smoking altogether, I start feeling extremely nauseous and end up vomiting. It's like my body is rebelling against me for depriving it of something it's used to. Here's what I've been doing lately: instead of inhaling the smoke into my lungs like I used to, I've been just drawing it into my mouth and then exhaling. It's not ideal, I know, but it seems to alleviate the nausea temporarily. I'm aware of the dangers of smoking during pregnancy, and I'm really trying my best to do what's right for my baby. But I feel so lost and conflicted right now. Has anyone else been in a similar situation or have any advice to offer? I would really appreciate any guidance or support you can provide. Thank you so much. 🌸 #seriouslyasking #nojudgement #firsttimemom

Hi there! First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy! It's completely understandable that you're feeling torn and confused about smoking during this time. It's a tough habit to break, especially when it's been a part of your life for a while. I want to reassure you that you're not alone in this struggle. Many moms have faced similar challenges and have found ways to overcome them. It's great that you're reaching out for support and guidance. I understand that quitting cold turkey can be really tough, especially with the nausea and vomiting. It's a good step that you've modified your smoking habits by drawing the smoke into your mouth and then exhaling instead of inhaling it into your lungs. This shows that you're already taking steps to reduce the impact on your baby. One suggestion I have is to gradually reduce the number of cigarettes you smoke each day. This can help minimize the withdrawal symptoms while still working towards quitting completely. You could also try finding alternative ways to cope with stress or cravings, such as going for a walk, practicing deep breathing, or finding a new hobby to distract yourself. It's important to seek support from your healthcare provider as well. They can provide personalized advice and support to help you through this process. There are also resources and programs available specifically for pregnant women who are trying to quit smoking. Remember, it's okay to ask for help and to lean on others for support during this time. You're doing your best for your baby, and that's what matters most. You're already taking steps in the right direction, and I believe you can overcome this challenge. Wishing you all the best on your journey! 🌸 #nojudgement #yougotthis https://invl.io/cll6she

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Formula Milk Required

Dear mommies, how much formula milk does a 4-week newborn baby drinks? Please advise, thank you very much! #help1sttimemompls #firsttimemom #nojudgement #seriouslyasking

Hey there, dear mommies! Congratulations on your newborn bundle of joy! It's an exciting time filled with new experiences and lots of love. When it comes to formula milk for your 4-week-old baby, it's essential to ensure they're getting the right amount for their growth and development. Typically, a 4-week-old newborn baby will consume around 2 to 4 ounces of formula milk per feeding. However, every baby is unique, and their needs may vary. Some babies may want more, while others may be satisfied with less. It's essential to pay attention to your baby's cues and feeding patterns to determine if they're getting enough milk. Here are a few tips to help you navigate feeding your newborn: 1. **Watch for Hunger Cues**: Look for signs that your baby is hungry, such as rooting, sucking on their hands, or fussiness. Feeding on demand is generally recommended for newborns. 2. **Feed Frequently**: Newborns have tiny tummies and may need to feed frequently, sometimes every 2 to 3 hours. Be prepared for frequent feedings, especially in the first few weeks. 3. **Monitor Weight Gain**: Keep an eye on your baby's weight gain to ensure they're growing steadily. Your pediatrician can provide guidance on what to expect in terms of weight gain and whether your baby is getting enough milk. 4. **Burp Your Baby**: Remember to burp your baby frequently during feedings to prevent discomfort from gas. 5. **Follow Sterile Practices**: Always prepare formula milk according to the manufacturer's instructions and follow proper hygiene practices to keep your baby safe from any potential infections. If you ever have concerns about your baby's feeding or growth, don't hesitate to reach out to your pediatrician for guidance and support. Every baby is different, and it's okay to ask for help when you need it. Wishing you and your little one all the best on this beautiful journey of motherhood! 💕 Mama's Choice $18 voucher 👉🏻 https://invl.io/cll6she

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should i tell my husband that... i once dated his brother?

Really need some serious advice, and maybe a glass of wine (or two) So, I've been married to my amazing husband for almost 5 years now, and things are fantastic. But there's a secret I've been holding onto... Before we met, I actually dated his brother, for about a year. It was a really positive experience, and it ended amicably before I met my husband. Here's the plot twist: The ex-or-brother-in-law has always lived abroad, but guess who just came home two weeks ago? Yep, you guessed it! My ex-boyfriend is back in town! (or is it my brother-in-law is back in town? cryyyyyy). And even though I'm head-over-heels for my husband, there's no denying my ex is still... well... kinda cute. Now, the question is even trickier - should I tell my husband about my past relationship with his brother? I'm worried it might make things awkward, or even worse, plant a seed of doubt. On the other hand, I believe in honesty, and I don't want any secrets lingering between us. please help me #seriouslyasking #relationship #advice

From a man's perspective, I think you should inform your husband. Rather than letting your brother-in-law sharing it with your husband, I think it is better for you to let him know first. It may be earth-shaking for your husband, this took place before you met your husband, and I believe it will take some time for him to rationalize it. And to be sure: you really did not know that they were siblings, till your brother-in-law came back. So: attribute it to fate. Honestly, I hope this is a troll story. Otherwise I would advise you to seek professional's help... you shared you have an amazing husband, yet you hold thoughts/feelings to your brother-in-law; no right frame-of-mind would hold that "cute" thoughts or emotions when you have an amazing husband.

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