#postpartumanxiety
hello mummy! it's completely normal !! I was super annoyed with my own mom when baby was around few months old. small thing such as how the diaper was changed / how baby was wiped triggered me... and I had a few arguments with my mom as she voiced out to me that she felt stressed helping me to take care. just fyi my mom is only in her early 50s and when sometimes she said she is tired - I cannot help to think that my in laws who in their 60s never complain at all and they always visit baby after their work and help out.. so I would wonder why my mom complain etc when we paying her to take care and she no need do anything else (e.g. her meals are covered, we got helper to buy for her) , just purely take care of baby (also she quit her job - agreeable on her end).. so many frictions between me and my mom that made me sign up for infant care slot for my baby. but now I think when they say tired, it's just them saying -i just one ear in and another ear out. this is like I complain daily tired to go work but I will still turn up. lol.. . fast forward to my baby now who is around 8mo, i think my mom actually took great care of her..now that infant care slot is available- we dun want to even send her there... thinking to just let my mom take care. it took me very long to actually let go n trust my mom to take care ... I think it took me around 5 months plus lololol ...I started to be grateful and focus on all the positive things that she do for us and baby. my mom too, announced things or tend to complain to friends about me - which I found out, but I think it's their way to share joy or vent...of cos would be nice if they check in with us first but again, maybe it didn't cross their mind that it will offend us and they just speak without thinking much. my mom would also complain to my sister and brother which made me super upset and may break our siblings relationship, I used to be so pissed but then few months later I think at end of day she just want someone to listen to her point of view . really take quite a while for me to let goo...I agree it's really our expectations...I do agree that I want my mom to do it my way. but that makes her stress and I try to put myself in her shoes, I don't want people to mirco manage me also lah hahahah.. I will also feel stress. but yeah sometimes I just couldn't help it but rage at the way she do things. dk is it hormones haywire or what ... i would say now I super appreciate my mom cos it's not easy to take care of baby and she is my mom after all who also had a hard time giving birth to me ...
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