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Baby bottle rejection

Hi mummies, ftm here and baby just hit 3 Months. Previously bottle fed him during 1st month when milk supply was low. 2nd month while I was taking care of him, I breastfed completely as it was too difficult to pump and feed as my husband was busy with work to help. Now at 3 Months, baby is rejecting bottle. I'm putting him in infant care on 1st week of Jan 2024. Feeling very stress about his bottle rejection.. He used to take pigeon SS. Now, tried more than 9 types of bottle brands, having better luck with Hegen. But he only bite on the teat but not sucking. Read alot of other websites and tried different positions, temperature, etc etc..still not working much. Been 2 weeks of trying and it's stressing me out. Worried for baby if he will starve himself at infant care then no choice i'll have to go over to feed him since I stay nearby and not back at work yet. The stress is so much that I'm so negative.. It's causing tension with my husband. Sigh.. He asked me not to be so negative and keep thinking of worst case scenario such as baby not going to take bottle and I'll have to tank it. But I can't help planning/thinking for the worst.. :( Any mummies with bottle rejection and found success? Or no success? Pls share your experience.

Change pigeon teat to S. Works for me. Might work for u

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is this normal?

hi mummies can i check if this is normal? sorry for the gross photo, FTM here

is this normal?

hi! u can refer to this. :)

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Pee leak mystery

Hi mummies, would like to seek help to solve my baby boy pee leak mystery. I’m a first time mum and my baby boy is turning 3mths. Recently we would find his left side of his back (above the diaper) wet. Suspecting is pee leak, but don’t quite understand how it leaks coz the diaper seem to be dry on the waist line and the diaper is only 20-30% wet, so definitely not leaking out due to diaper full. He is wearing MamyPoko tape diaper size S which is appropriate for his weight. So appreciate if any mummies who had similar experience to help us understand how did the leak happen 😅

Is he sleeping on his sides? My boy (3m) also leaks top left/right when he turn to his side in his sleep

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Nauseous post partum Anyone feeling nauseous everytime u try to pump or happens anytime of the day?

#advicepls #firsttimemom #nausea

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Can breastfeeding drink Jamu

Can breastfeeding mom drink jamu? If yes, how many hours to avoid feeding baby?#advicepls

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Is it PP anxiety?

Currently we are staying with my husband's grandma while waiting for BTO and his grandma have a helper at home - in which is his aunt who is paying the helper salary. As we move in, she now have to help us to wash clothes n cook for us etc and my husband and I give her extra allowance for that. She is good - can cook, take initiative to do things and always making the house clean. We have a newborn recently and the main caregiver is myself and my husband. We don't get the helper involved as we think that it's not part of her job scope to begin with and even washing of baby bottles, we do it ourselves. I am not sure why I'm super paranoid when helper is around my baby - especially when baby cries, the helper immediately rush to carry her. As much as possible I put baby in living room so grandma can see her actually. I have advice helper to at least monitor the situation first as babies tend to have light sleep and it may just be nightmares and she sometimes would sleep back on her own. By carrying her immediately would disturb baby's sleep. However, she didn't listen and continue doing so. When I want to take back baby, she refused to and say something like "you don't want your mummy is it, why you dont like your mummy" (Makes me speechless zz) Also, she tends to carry baby (baby is in rocker and whimper a little) when she is half way cooking (shirt will be oily) and she tends to put baby on her chest which irks me actually. I am physically there to pat my baby - not sure why she is so anxious..I know she meant good to maybe help me but I can't help but feel annoyed 😢 When I put baby in bedroom, she will also rush in when baby cries, when I'm trying to calm baby down, she carry baby over and take her to the living room.

Well it is not PP anxiety, however more to how your grandma's helper listens to instruction and knows her role or her given job scope. Should let say this has been told off, you may wish to let your grandma/aunty/husband speak with her again. Having said that, do lock on your room door to avoid her coming in without permission. Perhaps she might feel the need to help or she feels homesick. Therefore when you stay with your grandma she feels that way. Well maybe that's my POV. If you feel that she is nice and kind and has good communication with you then set the limit to make her understand.

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Not enough rest

How do people cope with raising a kid without extra help? My in laws asked me to do all the night feedings as my husband is working and needs to rest well at night. But in the day, it’s also me taking care of baby, feeding the baby, washing bottles, pump, wash baby’s clothes, do housework. When husband comes back after work, he is tired, so he takes a nap and only help with maybe one feeding. And my in laws still expect me to cook dinner every night for my husband because outside food is not as nutritious. I feel like I’m always busy the entire day. Doesn’t help that my mil likes to pop by, see the baby (not help to feed or bathe etc), and then comment “Aiyo why your floor so sticky? You need to ensure that the house is clean because now you have a baby.”, or “Aiyo why you haven’t bathe the baby yet? (It’s only like 11am in the morning. I also need to rest and settle my own breakfast?) Why her cheeks got rashes, you never clean properly?” So many comments that makes me so stressed everytime she pops by. People say “sleep when the baby is sleeping!”, but it’s easier said than done. When the baby sleep, it’s time for me to pump and do housework. Sigh… I don’t even know how things will be like when my maternity leave ends. I’ve been crying so much whenever I think about it. Anyone can share their experiences? #pleasehelp #advicepls #firstmom

I have no help after my husband ends his PL too. First few months it’s definitely tough but once your body gets used to the haywire routine and as baby grows, you can start dragging pump sessions, it will get easier. (The day when I started 12 hourly pump and had my first 12 hours full sleep, damn I was an entirely diff person.) One thing better for me is that, my pil don’t expect me to cook. I am personally okay with eating outside food and I have only one baby. If your pil is worried that outside food is gonna be unhealthy for their baby, ask them to cook for their baby then. They don’t have to cook for you it’s fine, just don’t expect you to do everything. Everyone’s life is changing, everyone is learning how to be a new parent and everyone is tired. Just because you’re working outside doesn’t make you more tired and vice versa, just because I am home, it doesn’t mean I get to shake leg watch movie. If your husband doesn’t want to help with baby, the least he can do is SETTLE HIS OWN DINNER. Please take care of your own wellbeing (mentally and physically) first, while you are a wife and mom, don’t forget that you are also someone’s daughter, someone’s gem. Treat yourself better 🫶🏻.

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Legendairy milk Sunflower lecithin

I use to have clogged ducts I tried sunflower lecithin and it works, however it says to consume daily 1 soft gels 2 times a day , But can I consume it occasionally though? only when its clogged, Idw to waste because its not cheap brand🤣

Can but I would recommend you to at least still take 1 per day. When I have clogged ducts (often leads to mastitis), I take 6 at one go, 3-4 times a day. (I have the habit of forgetting to eat also, then I eat a lot of mala on the other hand haha).

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Trust issue and dilemma

Anyone else feels this way or is it just me that sometimes I think I have trust issues to leave LO with mom ~? My maternity leave is ending in march and my mom suggested to quit her job to help take care of my LO (currently 2mo). As there is no slot for infant care, my husband and I are okay with the idea and will be giving her allowance to take care of LO. Her current take home pay is around 1.7k and she seems to want us to give her the allowance which matches her salary (though she did say that allowance is not an issue and to let her know if we cannot afford etc.) If my mom is gonna take care of LO - she needs to travel daily to my current place (which I m staying with my husband grandma and helper - my mom doesn’t have to do any housework or cook, as helper is already doing that, so she just need to purely take care of LO). Note: helper is busy taking care of grandma and doing housework hence not possible to leave LO in her care. Recently my mom came over and wanted to carry LO, I have to actually remind her to take off her watch (steel kind), she did so after my reminder but she did not take out the jewellery (necklace, ring, and bracelet) which she wore and when she is carrying LO, LO head kept pressing against her necklace which I have to remind my mom again, to remove it as it may poke into LO eyes.. Now I’m so worried to leave LO with my mom as the above are basics (I thought) when carrying LO? And also the allowance part it seems that she wants us to match her current salary which seems unfair to us (if we send LO to infant care it’s much cheaper due to subsidy and a more wise decision)..

I personally won’t put under the care of any parents if it requires them to quit their job. This will be the thing they will be saying every single time (I quit my job to take care of your baby bla bla). Put aside money, I think safetiness of my baby is more important (I’m not worried about the physical scratches by accessories, but more of what if any Jewelry gets loose and baby swallows it?) It’s worrying enough to be away from baby, let alone constantly having to worry about baby getting hurt or possibly in danger while I’m away at work. For allowance wise, I wouldn’t say your mum is wrong for quoting her price. She have all the rights to quote her price for her service, so there’s no fairness or what here (same thing, you outsource home based nanny, they have their own rates). I would personally put baby in IFC and just give allowance (whatever I can afford without putting myself in financial crisis). And don’t forget, 2 elderly woman together with a helper, nothing goes well. You’ll get all the “she do this wrong, she do that not good” every once in awhile. Also don’t forget if she were to quit her job just to take care of your baby, you have to do things her way. If you complain, you’re ungrateful and you may risk losing out an IFC spot (dragon year damn hard to get spot) and also a caregiver which then risk your job. Keep the relationship clear and try not to involve money if possible.

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How to Change milk powder from nan to similac

Hi mummies, may i know how can i change my baby milk powder from nan to similac? As my baby is having constipation so decided to try similac comfort to see if i can help my baby with the constipation. #firsttimemom #advicepls

I did it this way, dk whether correct or not. Mine was Nan Supremepro > S26 > Nan Optipro. Eg: 1st bottle of the day - The one she usually takes (Nan Supremepro), then second bottle S26 (try out), if cannot then switch back to Nan. If can, then continue S26 for next feed. For mine, after S26 cmi, so I continue Nan supreme pro then try out Optipro the next day and switched to Optipro after that.

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