Birthclub: October 2023

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Working Mum: Juggling work & Drop in Supply

Anyone experienced drop in supply after starting work in the office? How often do you pump & how do you also manage your time at work to pump? I’ve heard stories where for some, their supply dropped due to baby being away for a distance or they pump lesser leading to drop in supply. I exclusively pump and my maternity will soon be over. Trying to mentally prepare myself what’s to come & in hopes to prevent low supply #firsttimemom

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Sunflower lecithin vs soya lecithin

To mummies who are breastfeeding, do you take sunflower or soya lecithin? Is there a difference? My lactation nurse recommended me to take soya lecithin as my milk supply is low and quite transparent. But I heard sunflower lecithin is safer.

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When and how to introduce water to LO

Hi mummies, my LO is turning 5mo and am thinking can I start to introduce sips of water as she's been coughing for more than 2wk already and there is no medicine for baby less than 6mo. I have a straw spout from hegen and all rounder crown, wondering which one I should use to introduce LO to water? I saw online many people recommended Richell straw cup but since I have hegen accessories I hope not to spend extra money.

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Is it jealousy or am I a meanie ~ or how to deal with helper who doesn’t listen..

Quick background - currently staying with husband’s grandma and helper (note: helper is under grandma’s and mainly taking care of her and doing housework and cook) while waiting for our BTO. My husband and I paid her additional since we moved in for washing our clothes, baby clothes and tidying our room, and cook (she cook dinner everyday for grandma so it’s just add in 2 more person’s meal) as we felt bad (since we are not her employer and she is doing extra chores for us). The helper is really nice and have initiatives, but sometimes I felt annoyed especially when it comes to my 3 month old LO. FTM here btw… I am the kind of hands on mom and prefer doing everything myself when it comes to LO. As I’m on ML, I’m the main caregiver. I didn’t let the helper help with feeding / changing diaper / shower (again we are not her employer). Will at times leave my LO in the rocker at living room so Grandma gets to watch over LO and bond with her great grand daughter. When LO stirred in her sleep in the rocker or make some minor noise, she would come rushing over and carry her. I would be in the toilet / pumping milk and not in time to stop her lol. LO is still sleeping and may be in light sleep so it’s normal for her to make noise. I always tell her to observe first and don’t immediately carry. She doesn’t seem to listen. It is really frustrating. Sometimes I let grandma carry LO to sayang and bond and helper would come and take over. Also, once I told her not to carry as LO is playing on her own and help me to just watch over in the room while I go for a quick shower. When I’m out of the shower, my LO is not in the room anymore. Apparently she carried out to living room and even fed her milk. I was very pissed as she didn’t inform. Another thing is once she was eating oranges and I needed help with LO, so I asked her if she could help to carry LO for a short while. She is definitely glad to do it but she wipe her hands on her pants and want to carry LO over. Immediately I told her to wash her hands first.. zzz It’s not first time already.. there was once she was cooking half way and I caught her using her hands to grab and touch my LO hands.. now my LO is at the age of sucking her thumb and fingers. How unhygienic! Again I reminded her to wash hands and refrain from touching LO hands as much as possible.. What to do to helper who doesn’t listen, lol..

Well , with helpers you can only repeats like a broken recorder until it sink into them. If it’s language barrier then translate to them. Probably get your hubby to speak to her directly to convey message instead of you telling directly might be more effective as well…

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Baby bottle rejection

Hi mummies, ftm here and baby just hit 3 Months. Previously bottle fed him during 1st month when milk supply was low. 2nd month while I was taking care of him, I breastfed completely as it was too difficult to pump and feed as my husband was busy with work to help. Now at 3 Months, baby is rejecting bottle. I'm putting him in infant care on 1st week of Jan 2024. Feeling very stress about his bottle rejection.. He used to take pigeon SS. Now, tried more than 9 types of bottle brands, having better luck with Hegen. But he only bite on the teat but not sucking. Read alot of other websites and tried different positions, temperature, etc etc..still not working much. Been 2 weeks of trying and it's stressing me out. Worried for baby if he will starve himself at infant care then no choice i'll have to go over to feed him since I stay nearby and not back at work yet. The stress is so much that I'm so negative.. It's causing tension with my husband. Sigh.. He asked me not to be so negative and keep thinking of worst case scenario such as baby not going to take bottle and I'll have to tank it. But I can't help planning/thinking for the worst.. :( Any mummies with bottle rejection and found success? Or no success? Pls share your experience.

Change pigeon teat to S. Works for me. Might work for u

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is this normal?

hi mummies can i check if this is normal? sorry for the gross photo, FTM here

is this normal?

hi! u can refer to this. :)

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Pee leak mystery

Hi mummies, would like to seek help to solve my baby boy pee leak mystery. I’m a first time mum and my baby boy is turning 3mths. Recently we would find his left side of his back (above the diaper) wet. Suspecting is pee leak, but don’t quite understand how it leaks coz the diaper seem to be dry on the waist line and the diaper is only 20-30% wet, so definitely not leaking out due to diaper full. He is wearing MamyPoko tape diaper size S which is appropriate for his weight. So appreciate if any mummies who had similar experience to help us understand how did the leak happen 😅

Is he sleeping on his sides? My boy (3m) also leaks top left/right when he turn to his side in his sleep

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Nauseous post partum Anyone feeling nauseous everytime u try to pump or happens anytime of the day?

#advicepls #firsttimemom #nausea

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Can breastfeeding drink Jamu

Can breastfeeding mom drink jamu? If yes, how many hours to avoid feeding baby?#advicepls

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Is it PP anxiety?

Currently we are staying with my husband's grandma while waiting for BTO and his grandma have a helper at home - in which is his aunt who is paying the helper salary. As we move in, she now have to help us to wash clothes n cook for us etc and my husband and I give her extra allowance for that. She is good - can cook, take initiative to do things and always making the house clean. We have a newborn recently and the main caregiver is myself and my husband. We don't get the helper involved as we think that it's not part of her job scope to begin with and even washing of baby bottles, we do it ourselves. I am not sure why I'm super paranoid when helper is around my baby - especially when baby cries, the helper immediately rush to carry her. As much as possible I put baby in living room so grandma can see her actually. I have advice helper to at least monitor the situation first as babies tend to have light sleep and it may just be nightmares and she sometimes would sleep back on her own. By carrying her immediately would disturb baby's sleep. However, she didn't listen and continue doing so. When I want to take back baby, she refused to and say something like "you don't want your mummy is it, why you dont like your mummy" (Makes me speechless zz) Also, she tends to carry baby (baby is in rocker and whimper a little) when she is half way cooking (shirt will be oily) and she tends to put baby on her chest which irks me actually. I am physically there to pat my baby - not sure why she is so anxious..I know she meant good to maybe help me but I can't help but feel annoyed 😢 When I put baby in bedroom, she will also rush in when baby cries, when I'm trying to calm baby down, she carry baby over and take her to the living room.

Well it is not PP anxiety, however more to how your grandma's helper listens to instruction and knows her role or her given job scope. Should let say this has been told off, you may wish to let your grandma/aunty/husband speak with her again. Having said that, do lock on your room door to avoid her coming in without permission. Perhaps she might feel the need to help or she feels homesick. Therefore when you stay with your grandma she feels that way. Well maybe that's my POV. If you feel that she is nice and kind and has good communication with you then set the limit to make her understand.

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