Some may say, " it's still a blessing " Some may say, " at least you can conceive, think about those who can't but really want to " Some may say, " gender doesn't matter " YES, I get it! I know... I repeat, I KNOW. But deep inside my heart, " I've always wanted a boy " * sigh * My husband too... my family. Hi, I'm a young mommy. I got married at 20 years old and I had a daughter. When the first time I got to know that I'm pregnant, I thought I'm going to give birth to a son but I was wrong. Disappointed yes, but slowly I can accept the fact cause no matter what she's my bloodline and I love her. In my family, the first child is always a son but I shouldn't be surprise because in my husband's family... it's a daughter and more daughters. I took family planning after giving birth to my daughter and soon after that my husband wanted a second child and he said, " let's try for a son " I agreed. I got pregnant soon after 1 month of trying, guess we're both young so it's easier to conceive ๐Ÿค” I am currently 5 months pregnant, I'm so happy. I still don't know the gender though and I'm so nervous to know... I don't want to put so much hope cause most of my symptoms are showing that it's going to be a girl again... people in my surroundings was saying things like, " Oh you're craving sweet stuffs, it's going to be a girl again " " It looks like you're having a girl " Argh.. just stop! Don't tell me things that I already know ๐Ÿฅบ I told my husband, " What if it's not what we expected, YOU expected ? " He forced himself to smile and said, " It's okay. " but I know him very well that he really wanted a son. I'm just afraid that he could leave me if I can't bare him a son. My grandfather once did that to my grandmother but it was the opposite, she couldn't bare him a daughter instead. I'm tired of trying, I have no interest in trying for the third one. Please, I'm a career woman... and honestly I can't bare to have a lot of kids. People are saying things like, " Keep trying " I can't. Honestly, my personal expenses are quite high and I wanted to give my children the BEST. 2 kids are enough for me ๐Ÿ˜Œ I don't want to have so many kids and what? Can't afford their wants / needs ? I'm sorry it's just my observation... certain people can't stop giving birth and end up not being able to care for all their kids nor have enough for their needs. I don't want to be like that...

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Welll... Husband's chromosomes determines the gender. If he really wants a boy then it's his job to work for it. And his family don't need to be soooo kpo to hv a certain gender and blame the wife for not being able to get what they want. But of course, it all depends on the Will of God.

If your husband and you mind the gender then I really question if you both have kids because U love them or just to satisfy your โ€œdreamโ€ of having the specific gender. Think about it. Such a turn off.

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Actually if you're already 5 months, you would have found out about the gender if you did the NIPT test no? That aside, I guess I can understand wanting a certain gender or a slight preference. I've always wanted a boy but the moment I found out I was pregnant, I lost all preferences and only pray that the baby is healthy and growing as they should. I think what I find weird in your post is that you mentioned you love your daughter because she's your bloodline. It's like you don't have a choice and was forced, but of course, it could just be phrasing and interpreted wrongly. If that's the case, I wish you nothing but the best. But if you only love your daughter because she's your bloodline and no other reason... I'm afraid one day you or her (because of the mindset she was brought up with) will realise that blood is not thicker than water, and what happens then? Do you stop loving each other? Also, if you have a son this time round... Will you be neglecting your daughter? Will the

Baby gender is determined by fatherโ€™s side. Not your fault. Recite him with facts you find online (chromosome Y). If he leaves you for another woman to bear him a boy, thatโ€™s utter bull, then you deserve better.

Don't worries too much, give birth to a healthy bb is more important. I gave birth 2bb girls and on the way 3rd also bb ๐Ÿ‘ง. My husband still love me and my kids.

Try not to think of it too much. Many assumed that I was having a girl too but it turns out to be a boy. So just relax.


Healthy baby most impt!