1 month old

Question

Hi mummies, I feel like my baby is detached from me. Everytime I want to latch him he will cry and somehow prefers dad than the mom. How do I gain the closeness back? It’s very hard that I find when the dad goes to work he will start the fuss but when dads around he won’t fuss as much. Slowly feeling depressed abt this. Help a mummy out! 😭#advicepls #1stimemom #firstbaby

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Its okay mummy! Definitely normal for a ftm. Just know that your baby knows youre his mummy from your smell. Theres no way baby is detached from you, its just your emotions as youre still recovering.I read your comment and I highly believe that your baby is more comfortable with the fm but fret not. My baby was once like you too and hes also a mix feed baby. I even felt sad that he refused to latch and even drink ebm. My problem was that I have super forceful letdown and my milk is high in lipase. But I keep trying and trying until he accepted to latch again.Dont feel sad ok! Its just your emotions. Keep trying to latch, better do skin to skin and latch him especially at night when its more quiet and dark or you could also dream feed him. Meaning hes ½ awake and you latch him. This always works 100%! All the best!