Bad mom???

I’m a bad mom? Middle of the night my daughter will keep crying even after I feed and changed her I don’t get enough sleep I only at 2h a sleep person day I pumped every 2-3h also feed her 2-3h doing it all alone as a single mommy super tiring I would ignore her cries for 1 min then try to sooth her I feel like a bad mom for ignoring her… I broke down a few times INFRONT of her I couldn’t take it anymore. #First_Baby

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You're trying your hardest, and you are certainly not a bad mom, please be assured of that. Is there anyone you can seek support from to help you out , at least in the daytime? Do reach out to your family if they are able to help. Also,I agree with the other mummies on giving formula or mixed feeding for your baby if breastfeeding and pumping is causing u a lot of stress. You lack sleep, and breastfeeding/pumping schedule is extremely demanding. Fed is best. As long as baby is fed, she'll grow well. Your mental health is very impt. A happy mummy is as impt as a happy baby.

no you're not a bad mom. I think you're burnt out since you're managing on your own. I have help and I still feel what you feel. it's OK, it's normal. I do sometimes let my baby cry while I try to compose myself before attending to her. I believe it's better that way then you attending to her while feeling all negative. I hope you're able to get some help but if not, be strong mummy. I wish you all the best. I know you're doing the best that you can ❤️

Sounds like you are burnt out. Sometimes it's ok to let your baby cry for a while longer but that doesn't mean you are not attending to her needs at all. Your baby's crying despite the feeding and diaper changing might probably mean she is uncomfortable somewhere or she just needs your comfort. Do hang in there mummy

by sleep training method. actually the trainer suggest we let baby cry for few minutes first then find out what baby needs. so i guess one min is rly not sth u should feel guilty of. i rmb when we train our 1st one. longest crying time is 45 mins but each 5 min we will check on her.

https://www.instagram.com/p/C-cXd2GJwq5/?igsh=MWhzcGVxZXpiNWVveQ== You're a good mom. Don't ever doubt that! You're human and you're exhausted. That's ok. Baby won't remember you breaking down but will remember the many many times you've held, fed, and comforted her.

You’re a good mom. You’re burnt out and overwhelmed. Consider feeding fm if that’s ok for baby to consume? You can do mixed feeding.

you're doing the best for your baby. but it is also important to take care of yourself. please get a break. get some help.

give formula milk for your baby same nutrients too. use sleeping balm for calming use white noise

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u r doing ur utmost so u arent a bad mom... hang in there!

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