Am i a bad mom?

I am a first time mom and my baby is just 3 weeks old. I feel exhausted, clueless and lost sometimes. My baby cries alot, always want to be held and i get frustrated at myself for not able to console him. Everything seems to be so challenging and i am overwhelmed. My husband and i gets into arguments almost every other day due to the stress and tiredness from being new parents. There is no intimacy anymore. We only have each other because our family lives in another country. I feel lonely and alone on some days. We do not have any help and im also stress about my low supply of breastmilk. Waking up every 3 hours, and yield only less than 50ml each time makes me feel useless. Sometimes i cant even wake up every 3 hours because when baby sleeps, that is the only 1-2hours i can have naps. I feel bad not giving my baby much, 6 times out of 8 i will give him formula. I feel like a bad mom. #pleasehelp #advicepls #1stimemom #firstbaby #firstmom

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are you on confinement food? if not make sure you have frequent meals and drink lots of water. you need to eat more than you used to inorder to make more milk. Have those milk boosting foods like bone soup, avacado, papaya etc. You can find more info and recipes online. Instead of expressing try to get the baby to latch as babies are able to get more milk by latching. That being said, sure breastmilk is the best but what is more important is yours and your babys mental wellbeing. if its stressing you out too much please give it up. you will feel much better. there is nothing wrong in giving formula. You are an awesome mommy who wants the best for your baby and that is why you are stressed over all this. First time is always challenging and you are doing the best you could. Things will get better.

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