Feeling apart

My hub have not been doing his part as a father or husband...all he do is usong his phone all day...will only move when told a number of times. Midnight when the LO (2yrs old) is crying...he just continue his sleep even he heard it. There is no moral support. When his mom ill speak of me, he only ask her to keep quiet...no show of siding me or say something to stop her from talking it again. Things just keep repeating. Is tiring, ever did talk to him, but sometime he control too much, self center.#sharing

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Agree with the other comment. If you want him to help, just tell him directly. Guys are not dumb but they like to dumb their way out. They know they should or can be helping out but they will always think “if she wants my help she should tell me”. So now i just tell my husband directly, if you don’t see me attending to her when she cries, you should auto because it means at that point of time, I don’t want to handle (usually in the MOTN/early morning cause I’m a very light and late sleeper). For your mil, if you can’t depend on your husband, just go straight to your mil and confront her. Thats what I did last time when I’m staying with my mil. I’m not rude nor disrespectful, just wanna clarify which part about me is causing unhappiness to you (mil). If you want to badmouth about me, go ahead but at least don’t let it get to my ears. My mil is rather tamed now or at least I don’t hear anything bad from anyone about me.

If you really need him to tend to the kid then just tell him? Probably he is already used to you being the one to tend to the kid hence he doesn't see the need to get up. Some men are just not the initiative type and only you know if he has always been like this. As for your mil issue there's nothing much you can do since mouth is hers. If you only see her occasionally then just ignore what she says

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