Irrational fear of being hated by my baby

Before giving birth I never thought I would love my baby - he is just another stranger to me. I even hoped baby loves dad more so dad would have to do everything so I can rest. But after giving birth I have this irrational jealousy towards everyone hogging my baby, and jealousy towards anyone baby laughs and smiles to, especially if baby didn't smile as much with me. Now I even fear that what if my baby grows up to hate me because I nag at him a lot or if I am a bad parent. What should I do...

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It’s normal, after all they were once inside us, we gave birthed them. I’ll say take it like flying a kite, sometimes we have to let go a little, during that “let go” times, take it as a short break for yourself. I have been with my baby 24/7 since birth and I’m the main caregiver so she sticks to me most of the time (she don’t smile to me, but smiles to everyone else until around 8mo). When she’s around 22 months when we were overseas, she suddenly only wants daddy and no one else (I was enjoying it tbh 🫣). The moment we reached sg……….. it’s mummy mummy mummyyyyyyyy all the way till now, I can’t even poop in peace 😮‍💨. She has to sit on the stool right infront of me to watch me poop and shower 😑. No matter what, baby will still know you’re his mommy and you will always be his safe and comfort zone. 🫶🏻

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10mo ago

Don’t worry about it, they have a saying that babies tend to see mummies as themselves and they are still learning how to recognise people. I’ve tried it HAHAHA. I don’t wear specs so when I put on specs, she sees me as a totally different person and started crying 😅

Ahhh mummy i was in your same exact position when i gave birth🥹🥹 thought i was the only one. But dont worry mummy!! Baby will never forget who his mummy is. Based on experience. I barely took care of my baby for the first 2 months cs i was in so much pain from csect. But now at 3months, my baby would always smile at me and looks happy etc baby will never hate anyone, unless they abuse baby. Dont worry too much itll be fine one day

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