Very upset

My 19mo son started PG last month, and he’s been having anxiety and would cry if he can’t see my husband. He is very sticky to my husband. Initially he rejected his father due to work etc, but I made an effort to try and let them bind together and it worked! At first I thought it’s really sweet, because many people tells me that babies are usually closer to their mothers. But subsequently, I felt that baby doesn’t want me anymore. “Mummy go outside” “no mummy” ☹️ and my husband is the worst when it comes to building a bridge and bringing people together, I told him that I wished he did what I had done to try and encourage baby bond with me. It’s just me one-sidedly trying and it’s not working. I’m so exhausted and dejected. I’ve become a random lady who wakes up early to prepare his school bag before i go to work.. and then rush back home right after work to cook dinner.. and a random stranger who has to stay up late to pack up toys and clean up when everybody else is asleep. I am expecting our second bundle of joy now and I’m fearing that I can’t be a good mother.

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Oh no that must feel horrible to you. You're still a good mummy, your kid is comfortable enough with you to step all over your toes and you are putting so much effort to make prepare things at home. I'm sure your son can feel the love you have for him, this may just be a phase he is going through, or he may be jealous of your relationship with your husband. Hang in there and congrats on your pregnancy! (I say all that but if I were in your shoes I'll prob have thrown a tantrum by now and be like "fine I dun friend you anymore you go be with your daddy" and ignore him till he comes crying back one day. I dun think I'll make a very good mummy tbh)

Home Pregnancy 19mo son started pg last month been having anxiety cry if t see hu