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I am in week 36 now. Dr told me to start take note sign of labour as delivery can happen anytime till my edd. I am very anxious and I really cant relate how contraction feel like? What should I look out for? #1stimemom #nervousmom

Signs of labour are these (but does not mean you'll go into labour immediately) : • Water bag burst • Bloody mucus Call the delivery suite and heed their advice. Don't go down straight cos you might be ask to go home if you're not in an active labour. Signs that you are going to labour : • Frequent contractions every 2-10 mins. Pain normally starts from the back then comes to the front and you'll feel a heavy pressure on your vagina. Time your contractions and if it is every 5 mins, can head down to the hospital quick. Don't confuse braxton hicks with contractions. BH is not painful, comes and goes for a few seconds and normally will go away when you change your position. While contractions is painful and will not go away no matter how you change your position. Super duper painful when your cervix is dilated more than 4cm. You'll literally trying to roll on the bed cos of the pain but then epidural is always there to ease the pain. Can even sleep throughout the painful contractions and you won't feel a thing.

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Saying I don't want mummy or daddy when having tantrums

Hi My son is 23mo. When he is having tantrums sometimes out of a sudden until we really don't know what he want. There are times when he want milk. We gave it to him but he will suddenly say i don't want milk/ i don't want mummy etc....So to avoid more tantrums , we leave it aside at the table or near him and say if u want it , u can take yourself. We notice he will cool down abit and den pull himself up and take his own bottle. That's when he calm down ardy. Recently, he was in the bathroom and we shower him. He wanted to play soap we let him a little but after a while its time to leave , he is not cooperating and not very safe to stay long in the toilet. So daddy just took away the soap. He was so upset he cry and scream for 10min We did try to calm him down but it don't works. We also sit one side to wait for him to calm down. But all this make it worse , he is more angry he will beat with hands and say I don't want mummy or daddy whoever he sees. Just ytd night , he will just cry loudly and also say I don't want mummy / daddy. I want milk . I told him ok I will make for u just wait. Everytime I will re-assure him that we love him. Is he not feeling love? How should I react or say when he is saying he don't want mummy/ daddy? How shld i cope with this or why is this happening. Sry for the long post #1stimemom #toddler #tantrum #nervousmom #advicepls

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Hi, thank you for sharing. It is indeed stressful and hurtful to hear our kids saying these things. My daughter said it even when she was 3yo. But it took me a while to realise that what they say is not actually what they mean. They can’t express themselves fully by saying things like, “I am upset because you took the soap away from me. I wanted to play with it a little longer.” So instead, if daddy takes it away, all that comes out is, “I don’t want daddy!” When I got hurt last time, I said, “okay, then I’ll go away.” To which my daughter replied, “I want you!” when she realised that I was going to ignore her. At this age, they are developing more complex emotions and are very often too overwhelmed by them. Coupled with the fact that they can’t express themselves completely well, this leads to numerous meltdowns. During the meltdowns, trying to reason with them logically won’t work. Trying to calm them down at that point will also prove difficult. So here are a few things I learnt... 1. Set safe boundaries and limits. Eg. If he wants to play with something, tell him that he can play for a specific duration, eg 5min. He must agree first before commencing the activity. Count down together with him during the play time and during the last minute, make it fun and memorable, so he learns to treasure the time given. My daughter started to understand the word “last” pretty early on. Then when the time is up, get him to hand over the toy/soap and tell him what the next exciting activity is (even if it’s mundane, make it sound great) so that he keeps his word and cooperates with you. 2. Pre-meltdown time out. You’ve already done this with the milk bottle, and it does work pretty well a lot of the time. They jump back and forth from wanting and not wanting something super quickly, so give them a bit of time to make up their minds, settle their emotions, and then start on the activity that was planned, like drinking milk. 3. Handling a meltdown. Telling a screaming toddler not to scream or to calm down just doesn’t work. They need to vent, so bring them to a safe space and let them vent first. As mentioned, they are overwhelmed and have no idea what to do other than cry/scream. After the initial venting comes the comforting. Not telling them to stop crying, but essentially saying, “Come, Mummy is here. You’re overwhelmed. Let me give you a hug. You’re safe with me.” The crying may settle a bit, but the kid’s still highstrung and can start crying any minute again. So move on to a distraction. Take the kid away from that situation and let him see/hear/touch something else. This helps him forget partially about what overwhelmed him and so calms him down almost completely. The last step, I started doing when my daughter was 2+. It was a post-meltdown review. After she had completely calmed down, I would sit her on my lap and hug her, then tell her that we were going to talk a bit about what happened. I would ask her if she was upset earlier. When she said yes, I would ask her specifically what made her feel that way. Then I would thank her for sharing with me and explain my reasons for doing what I did/my decisions. And we would have a very simple discussion on how she can tell me next time if she’s upset. This happened to work for my kid, may not work for all, but it really helped her later on, so I think it’s worth trying if you’re keen:) For my friend whose son also had a lot of outbursts, I gave her a set of emoji magnets to represent different emotions, so that he could choose the face that suited his mood and show it to his mum. That’s another way toddlers may be able to start trying to communicate their feelings without melting down. We’re all learning as parents. It’s such a difficult role to play. Haha. But every moment that you spend teaching your child and helping him develop good emotional coping mechanisms will pay off greatly:)

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What are the 4 blood tests to take during pregnancy?

#pregnancy #nervousmom

I only took the glucose test. 3 tubes of blood withdrawn. That's it.

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How much could i feed on my 17days baby girl.. born 2800gms.

Hello momshies... Is it okey or normal 17days baby are asking for milk after 3onz of breast milk or formula milk she ask again after an hour for another 3onz.. can you share me some guide or infor in terms of this matter. Thank you in advance #firstbaby #advicepls #nervousmom #theasianparentph

Super Mum

Hey mama, Perhaps let’s go into the size of baby’s stomach first. So this is a guide. Baby can’t hold too much in the stomach due to its size so frequent feeds is normal. However, the consistency between breast milk and formula milk is different. Do you supplement immediately after? How do you switch feeds? I would advise you to put your post up in the BMSG group as well to ask for good advice from the counsellors there.

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