I feel that my husband is always criticising me over simple and minor things. For example, just yesterday, he took out a piece of salmon fish and for whatever reason, asked me to help him pour soya sauce on it for marination while he hold on the fish. I put down everything I have on hand to help him. While doing so, I accidentally drip 1 drop, just 1 drop, of soya sauce on the floor. Instead of thanking me for helping, he asked how can I not know how to pour soya sauce properly. Pour soya sauce also can drip onto the floor. I told him that its fine, this is common, just wipe it up will do. He continue saying that it is not common. It only happen to me. Hearing this, I really feel hurt and start to fume. I sniped back that its just one drop of soya sauce, sky wont drop because of that. Why does he need to make a mountain out of a small hill. He continued that this is not a small matter and walked away. As I am really pissed and felt disrespected, and him, not apologising, I continue to berate him, pointing out his disrespectfulness, and behaviour. I know it is wrong of me to berate him which is something that he want the least. But to me, it is not fair that he could make snark remark at me over such small matters and expect me to be cool about it. But when I point such behaviour out to him, he can be uncool about it, gets angry and blames me for getting angry and not taking it well. This is not the first time that he does such things. He is always criticising me over every little things. When he didnt hear what I am saying, he would say I speak too softly when I am already shouting. When I cant hear him and say he is speaking too softly, he blames that I have hearing problem. When I ask him to help with certain things, if I ask him to acknowlegde that he heard it, he would say that I dont have to keep repeating/"nag" because he already heard it. Fine. But when I dont do so, he doesnt do what I asked. When I ask, he would say he didnt hear because I am too soft. I should ask him to acknowledge. Ask to acknowledged also wrong. Dont ask also wrong. I am at my wits end. Alot of times, when such things happened, I keep quiet, he thinks I am ok with such things and continue more frequently. But when I point it out to him, he thinks I am the one being unreasonable and making a mountain out of a small hill instead. Up til now, he hasnt said anytng nor apologise for what happened yesterday on the soya sauce incident. I am also tired that such things keep happening and he doesnt seem to understand his issue and always think that the problem lies with me. That I am not a peaceful person. How can I be peaceful when treated like this? I am also sick of always being the first one to try to settle the matter and make up. He is ok in other aspects, and does help me with the chores and kids during good times. But that does not mean he has the right to keep disrespecting me? How should I deal with such husband? Or am I the unreasonable one? #advicepls #marriage #husbands
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