Hi mummies i've been physically and mentally abused by my husband through the marriage. He always apologise but he never stops his actions... Hais what should i do.. I am a sahm and i dont receive any financial support from him as well.. Only occasionally he will pay for baby stuffs but for me.. No allowance or anything. I really want to go out to work but the current situation also prevents me from sending my 1yo to childcare
Sorry to hear this. You can get a personal protection order against him. Maybe you can try calling the AWARE Helpline at 1800 777 5555 (Mon to Fri 10am to 10pm). If you are facing family violence, you have several options for help that may depend on the nature of the emergency and the level of violence: Calling for help Getting medical attention Reporting to the Police Seeking counselling Seeking shelter in a crisis shelter Seeking legal protection Go to this website for more info: https://www.aware.org.sg/information/dealing-with-family-violence/what-can-i-do-if-i-am-facing-family-violence/ Remember, addressing an abusive relationship does not necessarily mean ending the relationship. For now, you can seek help from your family members?Read more
- My husband slapped me hard while I'm pregnant right now. What should I do? Currently 4 mths pregnant. I want to get away from him. Once he did it, he will always do it.liana
- I am a SAHM with 2 kids. I left my high pay job to care for my child as we are unable to find a good nanny nor helper and we got no help from our parents. At the beginning, I am still using my own saving from family expanse so there is no attitude change in my hubby. The moment I start getting household allowance he started to give me black face. He never help out in the house or make decisions for kids by giving excuse like he respect all my decisions but will start showing me his black face when I don't see eye to eye on his "opinion or decision". For example, he want to see his parents on one Sunday and I told him I will prefer to stay at home to rest due to the sleepless night as my kid is teething. He will say ok but start showing black face or talk to me rudely until I give in. He also stop communicating with me saying that he don't understand my "housewife" mindset or complaining that I talk to him at wrong hours. But there is never a time to talk to him at all. For example, he told me not to discuss anything with him before he go to work, on his way to work, during his work time, during his lunch time, right after he come home, while he is eating or playing his phone nor before he sleep. Also he expected me to keep house spank and clean, preparing dinner on top of caring for our girls and visiting his parents every week. (I don't really like to visit my in-laws as they did the same to me right after I resigned to be a housewife.) If I don't, he will start shout and showing me "black face" again. With all those requirements to fulfil, he expect me to be loving and send him "love" message every day. When I try to explain to him, he will start comparing me with his friends' Wife and start belittle my characters. I don't feel love at all from him or respect by his family and start thinking if I should get a job and start planning my divorce with him as he only use me as a helper. However, I am concern for my kids as they are still so young. What should I do?Anonymous
- honestly.. i have been feeling loveless from my husband recently as he is not the touching type like hugging and kissing.. always i initiate.. and he is always on the phone or his laptop and lying on bed otherwise on massage chair or either sleeping.. which i dont really like it.. feel like he's being lazy throughout the day.. we dont have often family day out to bring kids to play.. when i ask him to go out, he will comment 'u have money meh' or 'if go out who gonna pay'.. we dont have any dates at all either with the same qns throwing to me and i also thought of him playing phone and no topic to talk if we really go on date.. and sex life is so so whereby i missed being licked and fingered and kissing too.. and financial can be a headache and i really hate to discuss money issue with him.. always will end up having bad issue.. so i did thought of divorcing and raising 2 kids myself.. to the point that i actually think that i can be happier without him.. and i feel that i have no love for him anymore.. but this few days, he went back hometown and i pass by the place where i met him for the first time.. i do feel that i missed him and the past came back to me.. and he told me today that he went to do some surgery on his penis for me.. i do feel love towards him.. i do want to salvage and not divorce.. he willing to go counselling but only is free.. can advise where? so, what do u guys think? should i voice out all this to him? but i feel that he also dont bother, how?
Check out ur nearest family care centre, they do provide counselling for couples. You can suggest like visiting parks & museums, can also pack some simple foods like sandwiches, salads for kids & adults.Anonymous