Grieflike state

I've gone for my 20 week scan and it's already revealed that it's a boy... I really wanted my first to be a girl, one reason being I grew up with an older brother from hell. My colleagues have been asking what's the gender and I just keep lying that baby's legs keep crossing and we can't see. I'm really in denial and I feel so silly going through this grief-like state when I still have a healthy baby with ten fingers and a beating heart. I feel like a terrible mother.

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Hugs. May be helpful to remind yourself that Your older brother is NOT your baby. What you’re feeling is irrational fear and it’s unfair to judge that your baby boy will turn out to be exactly like him. How a kid turns out in attitude and behavior depends a lot on how parents raise their kid. If you’re always around them providing them love, support and a positive environment then The possibility of them turning out to be nasty and bad is very low unless you have permitted it to happen as a parent.

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Home Pregnancy ive gone 20 week scan already revealed that boy i really wanted fir