I'm not in a very good terms with my mom since young age (6yo onwards?) things get slightly better when I grew up (17yo onwards) n start t support myself financially and I think she realise the mistakes she made and hope for a better relationship. She's a very dedicated mom do all housework, cook for everyone, even lend me a few thousands to Pay my ($30k) Uni fees while I need t juggle my wedding n New Bto expenses. Now that I'm preggy, n I quit my job. Only my hub (not earning a lot) is supporting me. We decided not to hire any Confinement lady and ask my mom for help. She's willing to help. She's definitely experienced and know how to cook confinement food. However she stays in the west and I'm staying in north west. I know it's only right to allow her to sleep over thruout the confinement period rather than making her travel Everyday. 1) I'm worried we would clash again if she stay over. We have different views on confinement rules and the way t take care of babies. 2) my hub is not really comfortable having someone else in e house overnight. If you were me, what will u do?

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I read your story I find it so similar to me! To answer your qns, 1 luckily she listen to my opinion the dos and don't to my boy. There's no conflict during my period maybe because we are both so tired to quarrel. Or maybe she saw that I was so weak so didn't argue with me for that month. But! Soon after my confinement ends she start her shoutings (like she always would) again that's one thing I dread abt her since young. 2. My hubby fortunately is OK with that after I explained to him the needs to stay over. It also means my hubby will have a good night sleep when my mom is around. Upon hearing this he never question or bring this up again instead some days after the confinement period he initiate to ask my mom over for 'help'so that he could sleep through the night

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