MIL - why are they being so difficult

I’m a FTM to a healthy 4 months old baby boy. I just want to rant about my experience living with my MIL. From the start of my pregnancy, I can tell that she don’t care one bit. She never mentioned anything or asked anything about the baby. Eg how’s baby is doing? Is baby growing well etc NEVER. Once I was admitted to the hospital for abdominal pains during my pregnancy but got discharged the next day, i got back home and instead of asking how me and the baby were doing she said “aiya im also not feeling well.” Also another example at 37 weeks I was +covid and was admitted again for a week and not even once that she even called to asked how baby and i were doing. But here comes the most annoying part, once I gave birth, my husb and I brought our baby back home, she’s the one who so yaya papaya wants to carry the baby, wants to do this wants to do that. There’s so many hurtful things that happened to me during this 4 months but one of the most unforgettable moment was when she secretly clipped my baby’s fingernails till it bleed while i was at work and when I confronted her about it, she was so unhappy and didnt talk to me at all and only cooks for the rest of the family including my husband except for me. It’s not that i’m hard up about her cooking but I feel like this is unnecessary. I stood up for my baby who must be crying like hell the whole time shes trying to cut his fingernails and I wasnt around. If anything i should be the one offended because this is my baby! I gave birth to him and she should respect me as my baby’s mother. She always have this mindset that she’s the only want that can calm my baby and that she has taken care of her own kids so she knows better than i am. I dont care if she has 10 or 100 kids of her own but this is my son so everything will be done my way. Why do MIL always have to make things difficult

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Best solution, move out if u can! If your hubby disagrees den just go with your baby! My super actress evil MIL is always e tigger of mine and hubby’s arguments (9.9 out of 10), till that one incident that my MIL gone overboard and made my husband left me and baby outside all alone for hours, witness my baby hungry and tired while her daddy busy “escort” his QUEEN mother home with her LAME EXCUSE “no taxi”.. Imagine, SG no taxi at AMK? And e heartbroken seeing how can my husband left us like this for hours? That night, I never show any anger to my husband because my heart was really hurt badly.. Since he treated his mother more important than both of us, I told him “let get divorce since you’re always siding your mother.. I don’t see e point of us continue and I am tired of your mother and how e way she been treated me!” Of course we didn’t sign on paper, but that was e time my husband finally understood and he don’t go to his mother’s place so often since then.. some might say how can I stop him? but can these ppl understand whenever he’s at his mother place he is like a maid? And since his mother doesn’t like girl then why should me and baby even go there? Anyway, since then I also don’t look at my MIL whenever I talk to her.. Let her taste back her own evil doing!

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