Pls don't judge:( I'm confused in need of advice. Just found out I'm pregnant, while having 2kids

Hi I'm a 22yo SAHM, with a 21m boy and a 8m girl. I just did a pregnancy test as I'm late of 2weeks period and feeling a bit of stomach discomfort. Turns out it was positive. Currently, we are staying at my mom's house and planning to apply rental hdb by next year. Our finances for these 2-3 months is a bit tight. My husband asked me if I wanted to abort or keep and understand our current situation if I wanted to abort. I feel so lost. I know that if we keep the baby we have to be ready to face the situation of raising the baby along with my 2 other kids. But at the same time, I feel that if I were to abort, I would feel guilty about it and maybe It will make me emotional and affect my other 2 kids. I feel like I won't be mentally stable to take care of my 2 kids if I abort :( I'm already feeling emotional and my hands are shaking just thinking about it. I was planning to register my 2 kids to childcare and receive some subsidies while I go and look for a job and help out my husband. If I decide to keep the baby and after giving birth, I plan to use the patch as a birth control. Pls don't judge me the only birth control I used before was just condom. I know it's not easy raising a kid but my husband and I are willing to work extra hard to save as much money as we can while waiting for the baby and our rental house. We are willing to do whatever it takes to raise our children properly without asking help from our family. Pls help to advice. (Extra: If any Muslims reading this pls advice) Also, i wanna know as a muslim what is the view on abortion regarding my situation whether if it's permissible or should I keep and try my best to take good care/help my husband with finance?

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Hi sis, after reading this i feel your heart is saying to keep the baby but your mind is thinking of the future. All mom wants the best for their children. I suggest register childcare and infant care for your kids. while waiting for a slot to open up, get help from family to care for your children and look for a job full/part time. so that u can claim working mum subsidy. dont be afraid when u see the prices for infant/child care. i only paid $40 for infant care and $115 for child care later on. (due to increase in salary both me and husband). both me and husband combine salary below 5k and household 6 pax. all non working only me and husband working. we got the max subsidy during infant care. Hence $40/month. I use CDA to pay. CDA can last me througout the infant care from 4-18month. there is even start up grant to help pay for the initial deposit. also apply for hdb rental as soon as you can when only your husband is working so only 1 income is access. email hdb every week to expedite your case.( i help my brother to email hdb every week. he got rental less than 2 month). please approach your nearest social service centre if you are not sure how the process. they will be able to help and even recommend programmes that benefits you and family. Hope all goes well for you. Stay strong to all moms out there.

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