Life after baby. Share with me please on how you feel about this. Thank you.

I had a baby late last year. It was a precious moment and without saying my baby is my love of my life and this is nothing got to do with my baby. Its about me and husband and in law. Firstly I am so thankful that my in law helped us alot when we just had the baby. No doubt without them it will be tough on us as this is our first baby. But slowly as time goes by many things happened. Let me just shorten it and say it in general, I felt that in law and even the husband tries to control everything on what I do or handle my baby. Seems like things I did is wrong most of the time. My opnions or suggestions were not acknowledged. Worst, when misunderstanding happened even the husband was with his parents. I was totally shocked by that. I understood wrong is wrong but you know sometimes you need your loved one to be there for you right? But not for me in this case. Its like 3 vs 1. Honestly I just felt like leaving. I just felt so sad than being unhappy. And since all this happened I distant myself from them. It is sad. My feelings for husband changed too. For all the times I have been there for him this is what I got from him after having a baby. I can only sigh and live through day by day. To me his effort of taking care of baby was just an okay and its annoying. Here I am being exhausted and at the same time wanted to do my way to take care of my baby which I can't do that happily as there is too many rules there are this people being so selfish and don't realised it. Also husband kind of prefer his parents to take care of baby rather than mine reason is his side this is their first but my side this is the 9th but I felt why not make it fair as both sides its still my baby grandparents right? See I told you when it comes to this my feelings just don't seem important to husband. He just thinks what he wants and make his family happy. I am just sad so sad. Where is the little respect as a mum to my baby goes now? I wonder. Do you went through this too? I hope not but please share with me if its a yes and what you did to solve it. Thank you mummies. #1stimemom #advicepls

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I’m in same situation not even better. I want to take care & educate my LO. We in different belief, so before marriage & baby plan my husband & I did talk a lot on family plan even with his parents. But all discussion turn bullshit. Now my baby is 11mth old. My relationship with my husband was in unhappy marriage we stop communicate. If I point out any discussion my husband will shout on me. I taken all the blame becoz they like to said I take granted from his family. I cook meal for his family during pregnant & WFH. But I been tell I take granted. I give birth to my baby & asking my husband take care my baby at night during my 2nd month postnatal I take granted from him. As my husband I always take granted. To my in-law all turn very ugly. My MIL said I spent her 2k to buy ingredients for my confinement (no cod fish, or any good ingredients). Then they like to kept asking me why baby cry. How much u feed, why u didn’t do this & that (like very expert, but my In-law didn’t even take care her own son & daughter when they are infant). But I very firm person. I will not scold back but I act on my way. I even Everyday ask my baby said good morning & said good night to everyone before back to room. I do my best to teach my own son. Is so difficult, ask them help u take granted. Don’t ask them help, u didn’t ask for help that’s why u deserve to be exhausted. I just learn what come to me. Do what U think is right for baby. Ppl will be mistake here & there. Stay strong mama. U are the best mama for ur baby

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