It has been 4 years since I got married and sadly physical intimacy has drastically gone down. What should we do?

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if you are still attracted to him you can definitely build on it again. try bringing in some change to your everyday routine. for instance, instead of having dinner the same old way, create a candlelight dinner at home with some wine, and spice up the night in bed. invest in some sexy lingerie and excite him. if you are open to it, use sex toys or watch some porn together to try out fun roleplays. you could also go out to a bar and enjoy some light moments, or meet up as strangers and take it from there....there's so much you can do to keep the flame on, just be creative

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First you need to analyze why has it gone down. Four years is a very less span for intimacy to go down! Are you both always at loggerheads with each other? Are you not happy with each other? Spend more time with each other. Be naughty, creative in bed.

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Firstly, talk about it to your husband and tell her that this thing bothers you. This way you will find out whether he is also equally concerned or not. Find out why is it happening. Do you doubt him having an affair or him seeking physical satisfaction somewhere else, because I still cannot understand what is keeping him away from you, physically. Since, men sexual desires are not always rooted from emotional longing as opposed to women, so what he has been doing when he just wanted to have sex, because it is his physical need. So, if all is well on this front, like he is loyal to you, then you can consider seeing a doctor, as sometimes, hormones play a spoilsport. So, seek medical advice if all is well. Rest, making time for each other, foreplay, cutting, talking dirty, going for a holiday, cooking together, going out often... all increase bonding between husband and wife.

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I think the mundane routine of life has got to you. You are bored and frustrated. My husband and I went through the same cycle after the birth of my daughter. Life became frustrating and we went through a phase where we did not want to be around each other. Lack of communication is the main culprit in such cases. So first try and spend time talking about what's bothering you and that will solve most of the problem.You need to find time for yourselves and have fun. Try revisiting the places you have been to where you had fun. Try things you have not done before....set date nights,watch erotic movies,get aways,etc.

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I guess, you guys should work on your bonding on verbal level. By this I mean, that have more and more conversations, spend time talking and listening to each other, go to for movies or explore new things if you have done run-of-the-mill things. Go river-rafting, book tickets for plays, go for weekend getaways. And once you have established your bonding over talks and discussions and in each other's company, you will automatically develop physical intimacy too. And if it has been only four years since you guys got married, you need to figure out what drifted two of you apart. And once you have found out the reason, work towards finding a solution for it.

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