After giving birth

Hey mama, Yes I can definitely relate after my first birth! Try getting a squirt bottle - the kind with a tube and you can squeeze to control the water pressure? Bidets and shower heads are not gentle enough. Also, get a perineal spray - I like the earth mama one. Spray like crazy before and after - the cooling effect will help numb the area somewhat. Hope this helps - it’ll sting a little but after the first time you’ll be fine. No need to use soap that’s harsh - try to use gentle cleansers